A lot has been written about life reinvention, but I wanted to write a little post and put my own spin on things.
I have been everything from a welfare mom to a competitive rock climber, to a floozy party girl, to a straightlaced wife, to a bohemian artist to a medicine woman to a bodybuilder (twice!) I have been a mechanic, a waitress, a pizza maker, a massage therapist, owned a new age shop, owned a house painting business, a personal trainer, and an LPN and a registered nurse.
I have hosted uncountable events in the arts community and owned my own venues. I have taught adults to read, served in multiple charitable organizations, and wrote poetry/articles/ and started a book or two. And I have reinvented myself a dozen times.
What does it mean to reinvent yourself anyway?
To me, it means simply getting out of your comfort zone and deciding to be something or someone else. It means that no matter what happens, good or bad, you step outside of the cocoon and morph into a new person.
“But how do you start?” you may ask.
Well, give yourself a little time to daydream. Have you always wanted to be a singer? Live in a cabin in the mountains? Move to another country? Go back to school? All of this and more is possible. Make a vision board. Brainstorm and write that shizzle down. Allow yourself to envision your future in a way that you can access clearly and regularly.
Next, start planning. It may be something simple like changing the way you dress. Do some purging at home- out with the old, in with the new. You may feel a bit unnerved without your usual garb or feel like a fake wearing someone else’s clothes- but that’s the whole point. And you will get used to it. For me this last time, I switched to super comfy clothes, little or no make-up, and no care hair. But I have done that whole thing in reverse as well. It just takes a little time.
What about your environment? Do you love your décor, or could it use a change-up? Go minimalist, artsy, shabby chic, or feng shui. Whatever you have envisioned. Perhaps you even imagined that you want to move to a new place altogether- start looking! Your new self must feel at home.
What about your job? Is it something you enjoy, can put up with or need to change? Maybe just a step up or down the ladder in the same field or same position at another company. But don’t stay in something that makes you feel miserable, numb or any job that resembles human servitude- that is certain death.
While you are purging things- look around you at the people in your life. Some of them may need purged as well. The toxic ones. The emotionally draining ones. Those who hold you back or keep you down. Think of how many hundreds of pounds you could lose by ridding yourself of these vampires! No matter what you believe, you can and WILL make new friends. And if family is the issue- disconnect. You didn’t get to choose them from birth, but if they are harmful to you- walk away!
Next up, find your true passion(s) in life. It may be knitting, gardening, photography, art, dancing, teaching, volunteer work- think of more than one and try them on for size. If one doesn’t work out- move on and keep trying until your heart sings
Before I end this, I also want to share a few rules:
- Forget about your age. It’s only a problem if you make it so.
- Put your health FIRST! You won’t get far with anything if you can’t even take care of yourself.
- Don’t do everything at once- small steps still matter. But DO set a timeframe- procrastination is not your friend.
- Be realistically optimistic- you may not have 3 million dollars to spend, but can you save up $300 to start? Once you do that, work on the next $300, and so on.
- Make the best use of your resources- networking, financial choices, and healthy food options.
- Don’t settle for a watered-down version of what you want or someone else’s vision for you. This is YOUR life. You can do it well and do it how you see fit.
- Yes, you CAN fake it till you make it. Just don’t KEEP faking it.
- Know your obstacles (real or imagined) and set about conquering them one by one.
- Do not go into debt- no matter how tempting it may seem.
- Rejoice and celebrate, remind yourself of your successes, and embrace the new you