It’s a Process

Since many of my posts are sort of long and not easy to skim through, I decided to post a list of the personal results I’ve seen so far from deactivating- week 1 

P.s. disclaimer here- I am no “self-help guru” , and have no real clue of what I am doing , or where this will lead. Just going forward day by day and learning as I go…

1. I now pay much more close attention to the person speaking to me. I actually remember the conversation because I have allowed it to become important. 
2. I am starting to acknowledge more nuances of people that I previously thought I knew – some good, some not so good. But both very enlightening.
3. My brain is less fuzzy, not only when I wake up but as I got through my day/evening. Go figure- I no longer have billions of bits of data flying through  at lightning speed, trying to process and reorganize it all before I lose it all. Of course I never retained more than about 10% of it anyway.
4. I am more mindful of my own activities daily. Instead of rushing through things, I try to remind myself to slow down and do a better job ( even with the little mundane things). I’m pretty sure this is a direct result of #3
5. Without the storage sucking Apps on my phone, my battery power time has increased incredibly. I used to have to recharge every day. Now I can go for 2-3 days without having to recharge.
6. I have had time to go through and “clean up” areas on my laptop and phone to optimize their efficiency. I’ve deleted hours of old conversations, deleted old files and photos I no longer need, reorganized my bookmarks, clean up my phone contact list , unsubscribed to emails I do not wish to keep receiving, and rid myself of any Apps i don’t use or need.
7. I find that I am more considerate and calm in general. I value and appreciate human contact .I listen more. I have a smile on my face more often, even when i feel stressed. I am more open to hearing feelings and opinions, ideas and feel less need to “defend” my position.
8. I am changing the WAY I listen as well. I am working on not always responding with my own stories about how I can relate to something and keeping the conversation focused on MY stuff( although this is truly tough for me ,I am making progress slowly) I  try to ask more questions, or just listen. My story isn’t as important as their story, unless they ask me to share. I don’t try to “fix” everything either.

There are of course, many ,many other things but this is a starter list. Now, get your butts out there and go have a real time/real life conversation with someone! You won’t regret it. Hugs!