Thinking about “Moderation”?

So, a few more days back on track. The sleep is coming easy as pie and I am feeling super. Plus, weight still stabilized and no hunger pains or feeling run down. I credit the bread intake and extra slumber.

Been putting some more thought into alcohol consumption as well. Pretty sure a lot of us out there do this off & on once we reach a certain point- maybe 6 months to a year. We occasionally question whether seeking that Holy Grail of the alcoholic ( moderation) will work for us. Lately, I’ve seen a few posts considering such a venture and my mind starts spinning tales as well. Never the less, after the one year was up and I had a few glasses of wine on my birthday, I STILL understand that no matter how often that demon comes around and begins to whisper in my ear, there was a reason( well , many) I quit in the first place. Beginning with the acknowledgement that once I started , I couldn’t stop.

Sure, I could go all week and never once think about it, knowing my night off would soon be here . Knowing that the night before I would head out and get my supplies , wake up the next day and after my bath and a few errands, I could settle in for my weekly binge night. Didn’t seem like anything terrible and most of those who knew me never really considered that a problem. But only a few close to me had really “witnessed” the problems that were becoming increasingly difficult to ignore.

Many times in the year leading up to actually quitting I would take a few weeks to “dry out” , and in my mind that proved that I wasn’t an alcoholic. I also didn’t touch liquor, and had given up the wine, sticking with beer. I didn’t drive or usually even go out of my house. I could do it alone or with friends, either way finding myself so amusing I never felt alone. I had facebook, after all, and I could chat with people, post hilarious pics & videos, paint up a storm and just pass out by morning. Still doesn’t sound so bad, right? Except that wasn’t the whole story.

 After I downed about 5 or 6, something would click in my mind. I wasn’t always aware of it though. I would become “someone else”. A lot of those times would lead to a black out. In those blackouts, I would say horrible things and often times injure myself. I would wake up ( barely) by the late evening the next day, discover my bruised body parts and spend all that night trying to recover for work the following night- dealing with the hangovers, anxiety, dread, depression and regret. Every week- wash , rinse, dry, repeat. Sound like fun? It wasn’t. I lost respect, friends, time, and my health. I missed out on time with my family, had no real purpose in life, and backed out of plans all the time. And that was just the regular stuff.

I won’t go into any of the truly horrific things that happened. But , as we all know, it comes with the package. I both remember and don’t remember things- neither of which is pleasant. The times when I attempted to quit or “moderate” were always short lived, with a return to the habit soon after, even worse than before.

Whenever I consider trying out that lifestyle again, all I have to do is spend several minutes walking myself through the process, and ultimately KNOW what my decision still has to be. It doesn’t mean I will never slip or relapse. It doesn’t mean I am not tempted. It doesn’t mean bad things will not happen to me any more ( that’s just part of life). But it does mean I have a solid foundation to pull from, and I would never have that if I hadn’t stayed the course. One year, 40 days sober 🙂

Namaste –and thank you to all my support buddies- We are now “Living the Dream”.

My Two( newly discovered) Secret Weight Loss Tips

Ok, after a few days of purging about my past and starting to get a grip on that facet of things, back to where I was with my Belly Fat Project.

After being pretty sick for about 2 weeks, I did lose a few pounds then gained a few back. I have remained stabilized around 123/124 lbs. Today ( Tuesday) I have gotten back to tracking my intake with the following adjustments with which I have been experimenting as I could between nauseas periods and sinus issues.

  1. I did up my calorie budget to 1440 per day which is intended to set me on course for losing a healthier ½ lb. per week. 
  2. I will still be tracking my Macro’s but have begun to let go of being so strict about the % ‘s. I was so overly focused on increasing protein and becoming obsessed with getting 50% protein  and stressing about it not causing such an unhealthy fat increase, I was losing focus of the long term goal-being healthier.
  3.  I have added bread back into my life. It has had the huge benefit of helping me feel much more satisfied with my daily intake AND ( drum roll) adding it has actually helped me feel fuller longer and I don’t wind up feeling deprived , resentful and ultimately stressed. Tip #1-Stress, my friend at this stage of the game is your #1 enemy – and it WILL hold the weight on you even if you eat almost nothing !! I would not have believed this if I hadn’t seen it myself…after 3 days of being nauseous and eating less than 300-600 calories a day..i had only lost a pound or 2 of water weight which came back immediately as soon as I started hydrating. Keep “destressing” as a main focus. It really makes a difference.
  4. I haven’t exercised at ALL for 2 weeks. I have had very little strength and for the first time in my life, I didn’t FIGHT my illness, but allowed myself as many days as I needed to just rest. It has been a God send. No guilt= no stress about not meeting every obligation. And as I said- stress is the enemy. In a few days I intend to walk again outdoors, but I certainly am not going back to stressing about how much, how far and how many hills I climb. Also want to find some other “fun” types of exercise to indulge in..
  5. I’ve learned something about my hormones and continue the research. While the form I was prescribed was indeed unhealthy for a post menopausal woman- it brought on a raging menstrual period- proving that I am NOT post menopausal ( just perimenopausal) . So , once this period cycle is complete, I will try another round and see what happens. If it can keep my cycles coming like this, I am all for it. I will never again wish for no cycle now that I know what will happen to me. 
  6.  In April, when I once again have insurance I will get blood work specific to hormones & thyroid issues and go from there as far as treatment. I intend to have the transdermal patch prescribed again because research proves this is a healthier route. And if I need thyroid meds, I will know. Healthy hormonal balance using good information is so much better than experimenting and hoping.

So-Tip #2. SLEEPING.

In the past week now I have given in to allowing myself to sleep anywhere from 10-12 hours a day. This, my friends, has been unheard of at any time in my life, except when I was so sick I couldn’t move. And even then, I fought to get back on track after only one day . I was so frightened that I wouldn’t be able to ever get back on track if I allowed myself any more extra sleep than absolutely necessary.

But, with this last period of illness, and in light of my deeper discoveries about other parts of my life, I have been allowing myself to do this every single day, as long as I do not have an appointment I really need to get to. Amazingly, even without watching every calorie, without exercising like a maniac, even with adding in as much bread as I desire- I have not gained a single pound back of the initial 10 lb loss. It could be that since I am sleeping, I have less time to eat ( makes sense) OR that the extra sleep reduces my stress levels immensely and I actually feel 90% throughout my night shifts than I have in decades.

Whatever the case, I’m rolling with it. No more trying to prove that I am superwoman , trying to survive on 4-5 hours a day and feeling like a dehydrated Gollum most of the time. If my body is letting me sleep and I have nothing else of absolute importance going on, I will choose to ride that wave until it becomes a shallow puddle on the shore. Because, I am worth it.

For my next trick, I will have to figure out how to lose those last 5 lbs. For now, I am content. My jeans aren’t tight and I feel healthy. Hopefully some of 1-6 will help, as well as finding exercise that I enjoy , but do not obsess over. So that’s a wrap.. Enjoy your week!

Namaste!

Down with the Sickness

I am trying to alternate my posts on here between the life path progress and this Belly Fat one (  just in case anyone was wondering) This is the latter.

So, after my birthday last week this ‘plague’ finally erupted in my body and every time I have a day when I think it’s almost gone, it comes back for another round. The respiratory stuff seems to be gone but now with the G.I. stuff. Today was the worst day of nausea  so far. I have not felt this nauseous since my interferon treatments in 2011. But, being single with a new home, lots of new bills etc. I cannot take off work. I have even had to pick up extra shifts.Plus, haven’t had insurance since September and won’t again for another few months due to starting at this new agency. 

I generally get home around 8am and get into bed by 9am. I almost always lay there past 930/10 ish but the last few days have not slept well. Today, I was finally falling asleep around 11 and the internet suddenly went out- no white noise. UGH. Come to find out, the lines are shredded outside- possibly just old but we have also noted skunks going under the house so could be they have been chewing. Anyway, no internet at home for a while until Comcast can come out to replace the lines.

So, what progress have I made? Well, this virus will probably knock off a few pounds unintentionally since I can hardly stand to eat. But prior to this, I had started adding more calories in and including bread. I have decided it is the one thing that I have tried in vain to give up and just cannot. I crave it and just have to work it in. I have been maintaining at 123/124 lbs. and right now I just can’t do anything until I feel better. The other side of this is that I had started HRT and it was also making me very sick- so I have stopped that as well as the new probiotic both of which I feel have been adding to the nausea. 

Side note on the HRT– I had been researching and the form I was prescribed( because it is all I can afford out of pocket) actually will increase my risk for breast cancer and stroke, so, until I have insurance and can try the transdermal route- not taking them. Also, I really need blood work. Most of my symptoms are really trending towards thyroid issues( I have lost almost all of my eyelashes!) and it would only be smart to be sure first. But again, no insurance for now. 

So, pretty much just taking one day at a time, trying to rest as much as I can. No exercise, not focusing on food just trying to get some in, and waiting this out.

Namaste!

The Rest of Last Week

tuesday: waking weight was slightly under the 125 lb mark- don’t want to get my hopes up yet.. but 124 will be my 10 lb. mark. Tonight I figured out that my app has been double adding a few items  which accounted for why i was so extremely hungry the last 2 days.( note: always double check to be sure – I went on only 636 calories one day!)Finally tried my protein powder in almond milk – not too bad.. and I am on day 3 of HRT. 3.79 mile outdoor walk, no yoga, 20 minutes of meditation effort ( but could not settle in) Think I am getting a cold( sore throat, coughing)

Wednesday: horrible sleep today d/t cold symptoms( less than 5 hrs). Getting ready for tomorrows event & my birthday. Realizing sadly that 1200 calories a day is not going to be sustainable for the long term, neither is forcing myself to walk every single day. I am at 124 lbs  today so the loss has slowed despite eating the same or less calories. No can do. At work tonight, I caved and ate 2 snickers mini PB bars which totaled 260 calories and totally outside my budget. Probably because I feel so deprived and really want to eat cake on my birthday. No exercise today d/t time constraints. Need to spend time figuring out a compromise.

Thursday: the event sucked and I wrote a post about it.

Friday: started getting even more sickly

Saturday: took off work, needed the rest, decided to make some adjustments to my recent choices so that I can cope better . I adjusted my current calorie budget to 1440 a day and will not give a hoot if I get 15-1600 per day. That is reasonable and still way less than what I was consuming. On the whole my intake has been much “healthier” ( not counting the past few days)

Just wanted to include here what my typical daily food intake was like. Since I work nights and my food App starts at midnight, my first meal is around 12 am( breakfast)at work  and my last meal is a few hours after I wake up at home in the evening- so usually between 630-8pm.

Breakfast 12a-1a: Chicken breast with peppers in a light sauce of some sort OR tuna from a can and a side veggie- like cooked spinach or carrots or lima beans ( with a little salt only)

Snacks: clementine oranges, blueberries, strawberries or ( rarely) a banana. I have had ¼ cup of nuts here & there but avoid them usually because of fat content.

Lunch-about 3a-4a: salad consisting of iceberg lettuce, onions and a whole cut up tomato ( I hate other fresh salad greens) and 2 tbsp cucumber ranch dressing. Sometimes I will add in a hard-boiled egg.

Snack: 2-4 oz turkey lunch meat and 3 slices swiss cheese

Snack before bed at around 8am:6 egg whites fried in coconut cooking spray with salt & pepper

Dinner at 7p-8 :30p: baked salmon and a hot veggie with a little salt.

This all had to fit into a 1200 calorie budget per day. I sleep 8-9 hours on average, and try to walk each day between 530-730 p in order to have a 12 hr fast each night between feed times.None of the food was exciting, fun or anything that i looked forward to.It was definitely not enough and I wound up crashing. Friday evening my scale read 120lbs. That is down from 134lbs on January 29th.Insane..

Sunday– after I had eaten a few decent meals I was back at around 123lbs. I am still in bed today however sick from being exposed to other sick people ( nurse here) and also pushing my body to the point of compromise. Back to work tonight .Taking some days off HRT because i am way too nauseous still.

That’s the update and I will be making a more solid plan this week that includes 1400-1600 calories per day , a few more foods i have been craving, and trying to figure out how to add a little fun back into my life again.I have not exercised , done yoga or even meditated since tuesday . I hope i feel better soon!

Namaste!

Going Off The Rails…

Ok – here it is- confession time. Thursday was my birthday. I was scheduled to be a featured speaker at our monthly open mic event for the first time ever in 3 years. The event featured 2 other established writers promoting their works. I was debuting my first book which I hope to have released within the next year or so. A lot of work, time and energy have gone into these events which serve our creative community. And the cost comes directly out of our own pockets at an average of $100 per month. (It was a lot more in the beginning to acquire things like chairs, tables, microphone, amp, etc. but we managed and now we just pay for food, wine and $25 for each featured guest.)

I am never nervous about speaking before a group. I have been doing this since I was a child and it comes very easily to me. BUT, I had been dealing with and suppressing a cold and some sinus issues most of the week, and praying it wouldn’t erupt until after the event.  When I woke Thursday, I still wasn’t feeling well but I knew the show must go on, so as usual I began getting myself together.

Almost immediately I find out a few family members were not coming. I won’t go into details but it made me feel really depressed. I understand things happen but in all these years, I have never asked any of them to come. This time I did and it was important to me . While one of them did wind up coming  it wasn’t because they wanted to, but out of guilt. So I didn’t feel much better about it because even though I have had events monthly since 2012 at one place or another, sometimes even more than that, my family has rarely ever attended. I can count the times on one hand.And i never complained .

This month, since I was speaking and debuting and it fell on my birthday , we even went the extra mile and got 3 dozen cupcakes, extra snacks , and two boxes of wine. All for nothing it seems as we had one of the lowest turn outs ever. Not even most of the community I have supported without asking anything in return for almost a decade came out to show their support. When I arrived the employee who works at the gallery we recently started using to host the event immediately  addressed me rudely and basically accused our guests last month of doing something that had never happened at any event we ever held. I tried to explain that but she made me feel like shit. 

I was extremely disappointed, depressed and deeply sad about the events of the evening and when we finally got home, I had had enough.

Folks- I caved. It has been over a year of hard work, constant sacrifice, rigid discipline and struggling . My life has lately become almost no “fun” at all. These past few months I have been dealing with so many huge issues and feeling almost no appreciation or concern from anyone except my roommate. I have not asked for any sympathy or help . I have been toughing it out and dealing with it all. Last night, I needed a reprieve, and I took one.

I had several glasses of wine (3-4 with lots of ice). I even took a few puffs off my roommates cigarettes. I ate a #$%^&* cupcake. And we relaxed and laughed and had fun for a change. 

And you know what? I do NOT feel bad about it. I did not get black out drunk . I did not go buy a pack of cigarettes or gum. It did not make me want more, or give up on my goals, or back down on my lifestyle changes. It was simply a night off. And today, I had that cheesesteak sub that  have been craving for months. So be it.

I tell everyone here because I am absolutely not a saint. Because i want to stay transparent and accountable. And I want people to understand that sometimes life does hit you really hard and you go off the rails just a little.You don’t “fall off the horse” but you get down off the saddle and sit by the fire for a little. I took that time. I am not perfect . I am human. And I do not regret it. I am NOT suggesting it  anyone do this just for the sake of doing it. I am simply saying it happens and you get back on track.

Here is some good news. I am at my goal weight right now. 120 lbs. on the scale today. That will likely not stay, as I am sure it was partly due to dehydration. But I’ll take it. The thing is , it means that I lost around 14 lbs. in just 2 weeks and I had no intention of it being that quick . It is not healthy and I was feeling very deprived during that time. I will be eating more sensibly for a while , I don’t care what that app says, I need more than 1200 calories a day. No one should lose weight that fast.

I hope this doesn’t deter anyone who has just begun to follow me. Or anyone who has been following and been inspired. Understand that we ALL fail at times to be exactly what we want. But we keep going.

Namaste!

The Fear of Failure

Fact: This is one of the most common/ universal fears in the world.

We have all felt it at one time or another. Sure-It may have prompted us to ‘face the monster ’once or twice–  but more often it comes with a tendency to avoid or block things out. 

As for me–I AM UNCOMFORTABLE unless I am completely transparent. That means , hiding anything feels like being wrapped in the itchiest wool you can think of ….on a hot summer day.. with mosquitoes biting my face. I was genetically constructed  with an uncontrollable need to spill the beans( ..all of them ..everywhere.) And so I hereby confess to you ( read in as loud a voice as possible)…I fail ALL THE TIME! And it’s ok.

But lest I sound like I have been around the Karmic wheel twice and am now some sainted being without any flaws—here is the thing-

Every time I start a new project or make a public statement, I STILL worry a little in the back of my mind :

“what if I fail?”

“If I do fail , will anyone even trust my advice again?”

“should I even say anything? If I don’t , no one will ever know” ( p.s. lots of people need an escape route and THIS is what they use- more on this in the future)

..and so on.

Sometimes it gets the better of me for a few days and I find myself spending hours ruminating. In the end, though, that type of behavior is not only a huge time waster, but it can really eat away at your resolve. So, off I go…clickety clack on the key board, announcing my latest goal.

So, how do I get past those niggling thoughts of fear?  I don’t..i just ignore them…yup- you read that right. I just go for it.

Why do I plow forth with wild abandon? Because the alternative is to live in a bubble of self-imprisonment– a place we impose on ourselves.  Again- yup. No one does it to you, you can only do it to yourself.

We all have a choice, or rather , many choices. We can:

 1.choose to live in fear, or 

2.we can plop our little pink toe over the imaginary line we ( or the world) has drawn for us. 

Which one do you think wastes more time? 

Which one do you think will help us grow and learn?

The choice is pretty simple. Pick a goal. Write it down. Make a plan . Then announce it to the world. It will keep you accountable, yes. But even if you fail who cares??Admit the failure and MOVE ON!. (You know what I failed at recently- I failed to enjoy my habit tracker art as I thought I would, and I am humbly going to have to concede defeat at doing art in it every single day. It just isn’t going to happen. For many reasons. See? The world did not crumble to dust.)

The world, as we know it, was built on many failures before there was success- you will not be the first or last to do so

So go ahead…take that leap of faith, ignore your fear, and face that monster! 

Namaste!

Daily Notes & Progress

Foxy Little Guy i did tonight at Work

Saturday: did not get to walk, but housework and other stuff to get to. I have been continuing with food experiments. What keeps me full , what doesn’t. I want to get my ratios to 50 % protein, 30 % carbs and 20 % fat. My fat has been way higher than I would like. Also I have to figure out a way to at least have one cheat meal each week. Because i am starting to get resentful already, and that will lead to disaster. No yoga either, but did 2 sessions of meditation at 1 hour each.

Sunday: was able to get outdoors for my walk today which was nice. I really don’t like being indoors on a treadmill and I find I can barely go 30 minutes at a time. I usually have to break an hour into 20 minute segments on my nights off just to get in a decent amount of mileage. Over ate during my work shift tonight, forgetting to leave calories for when I wake up. My app format goes midnight to midnight, and being on night shift makes things odd. 45 minute walk, 10 minutes yoga, 30 minutes meditation.

Monday: after my appointment tonight I went to the store AGAIN tonight because I couldn’t deal with starvation from 430p- 12a. I got egg whites, & tuna and made a meal of 150 calories that will tide me over. I wound up at my calorie level after exercising too. 30 minutes on treadmill , 20 minutes yoga, 20 minutes meditating. I am thinking I may have to adjust my expectations to 40% protein, because even where I am at on average now  am eating over 100 grams each day and only really need 65g according to the standard. Day 2 of zero nicotine and feels like I am dying…regular gum is just not cutting it right now.. BUT, I am muddling through…trying to focus on my art, blogging and not over eating to compensate.

I hope this new “daily journal format” doesn’t make anyone yawn. The idea behind it is to provide an inside account of the struggles , successes & progress of this particular project so that anyone who is also on the journey doesn’t feel alone. I keep notes for a few days at a time and then post, so these should only come about twice per week. Hopefully it won’t get too boring. At some point, i will hit a sticking point i am sure and new strategies will be necessary. Let me know if you are on a similar journey and what is working for you!

Namaste!

One Success Leads to another..and Another..and Another..

“A rising tide lifts all boats. If you work to improve one area of your life, you’ll often see improvement in others; if you consistently improve in all areas, the improvement in your life will be greater than the sum of its parts”-from The Simple Dollar Blog( one of my favorites!)

This week I have been thinking about how I have come to be where I am at this point. Just the sheer magnitude of it. How only a year and a few months ago, I would have NEVER believed the things I’ve accomplished were possible for me. But then I realized that each one was direct result of achieving the previous goal.

Looking back, I remember how it started with that decision was to simply “stop drinking” completely ( January 2019) .Then, over time , that success lead to taking on other challenges . With each success, my confidence , strength ,determination grew and the more I challenged myself.

So, here I am- a sober, non-smoking, single female home owner- working at a new agency  and  on this exciting new challenge( losing the belly fat- with even BIGGER goals in mind for the future!) 

 In just over a week’s time I’ve seen results. And I don’t just mean the pounds lost, or shrinking belly area. My whole attitude has improved and I am even more excited about other goals now ..I wanted to mention here also, since i did not do so in my last post, that this hasn’t been simply a result of cutting calories. It has been committing to daily cardio exercise , learning even more about stress control , and watching my nutrition more closely in general. I have also, added a much more quality probiotic and a higher end vitamin with adrenal support. So— it is time to step up the game ! Drum roll , please.

I finally picked up my prescription and started taking HRT tonight. And that means I had to give up my final vice as well- the nicotine gum. It was the motivation I needed to quit that last awful chemical addiction.  And I wholly believe that I got to this point ONLY because I succeeded all the other stuff before it.The boats rising with the tide! 

 BTW-did you know that having way less sugar, processed foods and fats can make you actually FEEL better? Who knew? So, in essence the ‘clean eating’ rolled into improved mood, more energy, and a spirit of renewed motivation to :

Start reading an actual book( instead of just CD books)

Start a creative Habit tracker ( 2 birds, One stone)

Clean-up & organize the art studio area( visualizing to create)

Begin doing my art again( small steps at a time)

Keep going with everything else!!( bonus!)

So far, I believe I have stabilized at 125 lbs. on the scale. And I am Ok with that. Because I know with continued exercise and eating well, I will lose the final 5. And I know the next phase will be a success too! ( toning and strength training).

My ship is ready for the voyage, and I am ready for the adventures ahead!

Namaste! 

One Week Photos

Photo from January 29th

January 29th, 2020
February 6, 2020

I tried to get the photos smaller and side by side, but I have zero skill with technology. I wanted to show what happened during my first week with photos. The lighting and scenerio is the same. Same pair of jeans, different belt. 

As you can see , the belt is now able to actually sit on my waist instead of below it to accommodate the muffin top.I have only lost about ½ “ but I did lose 9 lbs total. My roommate lost 14. We are using the same app to track calories and nutrition and last night wondering how in the world I could have lost so much in a week, i noticed it was decreasing out calorie budget each day for some reason. It started at 1200 allowed per day( which is the MINIMUM recommended ) but had gotten down to 1144/day over a week’s time. Talk about starving us to death slowly! I can see the headlines now- App slowly kills victims by subtle starvation–LMAO.

We both had to go back in and manually add back in our daily total allowance.. the last few days I had been very tired and just wanting to sleep.. glad I figured it out early on. It’s either a glitch in the app or something we haven’t figured out yet.

Still, I am glad to see improvement. I really only have 6 pounds left to lose to hit my goal of 120. Once I get there I will re assess..

Feeling better today with the extra 60 calories, and also the evolution of better informed choices in the fat/protein/carb ratio. A LOT less processed foods ( none in my case) more veggies , fruit , salmon and eggs= more energy.. Now if I could just get that water intake up to 64 oz..

Back At It


After my art hiatus of about 7 months i have finally started working at it again.. This little guys was the first thing i completed that i am semi happy with..It certainly isn’t my best work, but it was fun and colorful.

On the home front, i am still fighting with my Primary doctor about getting HRT. It’s been a back & forth battle for over a week now. I have leveled out for few days at 127 lbs. I am sure learning a lot about what fills me up for longer periods and how much fat i was consuming . I have been adding more protein each day and finding that eggs , salmon and turkey seem to hold me over for longer periods of time than anything. Of course , i always throw in a salad and some veggies. Still haven’t worked out how to include nuts which has become my new love food this year.

On another note i have started a habit tracker that combines my creative side with practicality. I have added the following habits to acquire over the next few months:

  1. eat fish 3-4 times per week
  2. work on my writing 3-4 times per week
  3. increased hydration, probiotics and vitamins
  4. read a chapter of a book twice per week.
  5. review budget monthly
  6. daily skin care

There are other items but these are the latest. we shall see how they evolve. I am feeling better without all the processed food , fats & sugars along with daily walking, yoga & meditation.

I am finally starting to make a come back from the months of lagging energy and motivation. Life’s a Garden- Dig it!